“How am I supposed to live without you!”

“If you leave me now, you’ll take away the very heart of me.”

“Love hurts. Love scars. Love wounds and mars.”

I love listening to music of all kinds, but you gotta wonder!  How many really messed up beliefs have been passed on this way?

Being hurt emotionally by love, by friends, or enemies, or the fear of it, keeps us from being our biggest and our best. This fear is so insidious it appears true.

In actuality, though, you can’t be hurt!

Love, Peace, Joy at Our Core

If at our core, we are love, peace and joy, we are always solid. This was eloquently and concisely stated by Eckhart Tolle. If someone does or says something to you, or hurts your body, that does not change your perfectness at your core.

You don’t need anyone to love you or make you happy, because at your core you are love. You are joy.

Arguing with yourself about why you can’t love someone can take up a lot of time in your brain. It stirs up point and counter-point debates that can rage for decades.

In contrast, resting with a simple, “I love her”, with no story connected, is like changing the channel. You can instantly silence the cacophony and return you to your natural state of peace.

Stay Loving

So, feel free to love anyone and everyone. If they don’t respond lovingly to you, so what? That’s not your business.

What will make you feel crazy is when you convince yourself that you must stop loving someone. If you have relationships that are no longer close, if you feel some hurt, it’s time to let the hurt go. Don’t let your pride and ego weave a story that says, stop loving them. Stay loving.

If someone that you love dies, and you are stuck in grief, it means you are denying the fact that life and death are a package deal. Gratitude will turn it around and you can be thankful and marvel at the blessing of knowing a person intimately when you had the chance.

You can love from near or far, by words or energy, through touch or clouds. You never have to stop loving.

Forgive

If you can see that we are all doing our best, you can see that no one is really hurting anyone. No matter what happens, we are still at our core perfectly fine.

When you give up the hurt stories, when you forgive and stay loving, you’re going to feel like you’ve arrived home. Allowing yourself to love, you’ll feel perfectly safe. You’re exactly where you should be, doing what you were made to do.

So, go on and love anyone and everyone, without the fear of being hurt!

Exercises

• When you review your life, do you have stories about people that have hurt you? Make a list. Is it true? What about the gloriousness of you was damaged? Can you see that your beauty and peaceful power are bigger than any single incident?
• Work on a retelling of the stories without using ‘hurt’. Examples could be: We learned a lot from each other. He himself suffered through the same as a child. He was doing his best. I hope things are better for them now.
• Is there anyone you have deemed damaged due to something that happened to them? Is it true?
• Are there any cases where you are demanding a never-ending love, where you are afraid of losing someone to death or some other condition?
• Who are you withholding love from, for fear of being hurt? What if the worst thing you imagine did happen? Would that change you, at your core?
• Make a list of ten people you can love fully that you’ve been trying not to: past loves, co-workers, family, strangers, anyone! How does it feel?