If I want to talk about making money, that’s okay
But about making love…
That’s strange?
If I meet you and I dislike you, that’s okay
But if I love you immediately…
That’s strange?
If I worry about the future, that’s okay
But I want to talk about death, and the fact that we may die anytime, even today…
And that’s strange?
Really?
Hmmm.
That’s strange!
Tag Archives: sex
Poem: No Vacancy …does the universe give guidance in neon?
Floating merrily
Heading to a motel
At the end of our first day
“No vacancy”
We tried another
And another
Then, in a pool of light
I saw us
Wandering the alleys
Breaking my own rules
In a flash, I knew, “No way”
“I am precious.”
“No discount sale, no rush”
I thanked my lucky stars
For those few minutes of delay
I woke the next morning
It seemed all a dream
But swooning with peace and blessings
I felt at home, at home
Does the universe give guidance
In blinking neon
“No Vacancy”
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About this poem:
I don’t believe in ‘bad luck.’ This poem is about one such example. I do think I get signs from the universe. On a good day, I follow them.
Sex is a powerful tool for expressing love, but also promotes bonding. I do best when I slow down.
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Joan Gregerson lives and teaches in South Korea. She hopes you will choose to give up worrying and enjoy life! Author of:
- Tuning In to Inner Peace: The Surprisingly Fun Way to Transform Your Life (5 stars on Amazon), 2012
- With Open Arms: Poetry for Big Love and Real Life, 2013
Poem: Talk to Me
Why won’t you talk to me?
Do you fear that I will see
That who you are
Is not who you pretend to be?
Do you think withholding words
Is like withholding sex?
Do you have to protect your feelings
Like your chastity?
Hey, no one ever got pregnant
Over the phone
Talk to me
I will respect you in the morning
World AIDS Day: Let’s accept each other as we are and start with real sex education
While Secretary Clinton is right that the next generation could be AIDS-free, I agree with Steve Seibold. His excellent blog on Huffington Post points out that the basis of preventing the disease is sex education.
Nearly half of American teens admit to being sexually active. When I was a teenager, I was. But, I was more afraid of being seen buying birth control than I was of becoming pregnant. I didn’t even know about STDs.
In many parts of the world, the problem is compounded with stigmas surrounding homosexuality, and then prevention of employment due to being HIV-positive. While hiking with a Korean friend this week, she was amazed A) that I have a family member that is gay, B) that it doesn’t matter to me, C) that he is HIV-positive and D) that someone will employ him. She was stunned to learn that he is a vibrant, inspirational part of our family and community. Omigod!!!!!
Yes, maybe 95% of people thought this way in the US 40 years ago, but things have improved! As one of my Korean friends said, who lived in the US for awhile: “In America, you can be who you are!”
I know we still have a ways to go! But, of the countries I’ve visited, we are more open-minded and more accepting than most.
So, let’s go with that strength. We can make an HIV-free generation by completely accepting each other as we are: sexually active teenagers, gay, HIV-positive, or whatever!
As Seibold said in his blog, “Are we too emotionally immature to educate our kids about one of the most beautiful parts of life?”
Compared to battling a disease such as malaria which is spread by pesky, evolving mosquitos, HIV is a disease spread by lack of information, stigma and/or shame. These are things we can easily address, if we choose to accept reality and each other, and go from there.
Book excerpt: Islamic Perspective on Sex
Islamic Perspective on Sex - the book by Dr. Abdul-Rahman AlSheha
I accepted the offer of about eight small books, and rejected offers for another dozen or two. I do want to read the Holy Quran so was very happy to get that as a gift, at today’s “Peace Day” event at school.
But like school girls, that night, I grabbed the “Islamic Perspective on Sex” book and started to read it out loud to my roommate.
The Quran gives a lot more specific guidance on sex that I ever heard about from the bible? So, after reading, I understand the “Islamic Perspective on Sex” to be the following (..and here I needn’t state that no one should take my read on this as fact!):
- Men are directed to engage in foreplay with their wives, and wait until she’s ready before satisfying themselves! (yay!)
- Sex is only permitted between husband and wife (..hmm, too much to begin to comment about this one)
- During intercourse, a man is only allowed to enter the vagina. (…so, no oral or anal?!)
- Masturbation is discouraged (oh no, not another religion that says this!)
The most memorable section though was where it says that the Remembrance of Allah is the only important thing in life. All else in life is futile, with four exceptions:
- a man’s sporting with his wife (sex),
- training his horse,
- target practicing, and
- learning swimming.
(p. 38)
